No Two People are Alike

It was a beautify evening in Bangalore and my friend asked me a interesting question. How to marry the right woman in your life ?. I gave my best shot and without hesitating said that if you marry somebody within your family the chances of being like minded is high as we have our background known to everybody and it is done in the presence of all elders of the family who know to make right matches. My friend smiled and continued to ask another question. So will there be no conflicts at all ?. I paused my flow of thoughts and consciously changed my direction and once I reached the dead end I stopped and looked at him seriously and asked him where was this going. He smiled again and said remember "No two people are alike in this world".

Now that sentence echoed in the empty walls of my brain and continued to do so for a very long time. I sat down and starting breaking it down to understand the true meaning of it and the significance it carried in understanding relationships around  us. We thrive on relationships starting from cradle to grave. It is this relationships which actually shape us and define our emotional health. So let us walk through the breaking down process of the above sentence - "No Two People are Alike in this World".

Sadguru Jaggi Vadudev says "The conflict in the world is between One Man's belief and the other Man's belief". It is fundamentally true because conflict is created because of disagreement between what one thinks, talks or acts in comparison to the thought, word or action of another individual. Every individual is unique in all aspects. It is the unsung greatness of mother nature that it is has created every being unique in terms of appearance and the very purpose of existence.

If you look around you in a park for example so many types of species in fl-aura and fauna each playing its role in the ecosystem. Digging a little deeper no two beings belonging to the same species are not similar in appearance and their role in the system of life i.e no two tigers have the same pattern of stripes or no two eucalyptus trees have the same appearance. Coming to the most advanced species that is ourselves - It is clear to us that 6 billion people on this planet but no two people are alike, our finger prints differ so does our style of walking.

 Psychologically we completely differ from one another. Given a situation each person reacts differently, comes out with a different solution and creates an impression on his mind differently. There is a further side to the difference when it comes to male and female. So we can extend the statement to saying "No Two People belonging to the same species are Alike". So two people belonging to different species is out of question or rather a waste of time researching the differences. People belonging to the same species match psychologically to certain extent and after a point they have their own sense of direction towards life.

So when are aware that no two people from the same species are alike in this world then why do we choose to get into a conflict situation.  Why is there an expectation that another individual must think the way I think or talk the way I talk or act the way I act. It is all a big chaos theory created by us and we silently suffer day in day out due to this internal conflict.

The crux of all relationships on this planet is all about psychological bonding. The best way is to accept every person as is without judgement. It is a very difficult exercise but once practiced it gives a great relief from creating internal conflicts with respect to  perspectives of one another.Conflict is a choice, and we choose to get into a conflict. We consciously decide to express our disagreement when the other does not think, talk or act according to our way. It is all about our choices. So let us choose our emotions wisely which inturn will define our internal peace quotient.

Note : Please forgive me if I have offended anyone. These are my thoughts. I may be right or I may be wrong. I would be blessed by those who correct me.